The Importance of Being Dad



Fatherhood, n. The state of being a father, or the character or authority of a father. ~Noah Webster 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language

In today’s society, fathers are pushed out of the picture. Television has done a prime job of taking dads and making them the laughing stock of the family. The role of father has become a comical act. The feminist want the world to think that the role of dad is not needed. However, the statistics show devastating results from families where the father is absent:

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S.,Bureau of the Census).
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.
  • 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control).
  • 80% of rapist motivated by displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14, pp. 403-26).
  • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source:National Principals Assoc. Report on the State of High Schools).
  • 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. (Source:Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. Of Corrections,1992).

With all of this in mind, these statistics translate to mean that children from fatherless homes are:

  • 5 times more likely to commit suicide
  • 32 times more likely to run away
  • 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
  • 14 times more likely to commit rape
  • 9 times more likely to drop out of high school
  • 20 times more likely to end up in prison

Obviously the impact that the father has in the home is substantial despite society’s disclaimers of dads. With the above statistics in mind, imagine how important of a role dads play in the adoptive home!

I did a talk at a conference entitled Hope for the Adoptive Family. My emphasis on my talk was keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus along side with the importance of the family structure and fathers walking along side with their wives to being deeply invested in helping their children to heal. After speaking I had so many dads that approached me, hungry to hear my husband speak about the role of the adoptive dad. I think that even within the adoptive community dad’s role can be minimized. If you google anything along the theme of adoption, you can find thousands of blogs by moms, retreats for adoptive moms, books for adoptive moms, but barely anything for adoptive dads.

Dads I want you to know that your role is vital. All we have to do is turn to scripture to discover the importance of the adoptive father. 

“A father of the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families,”Psalm 68:5-6a, (NIV)

God defines family from the very beginning in the book of Genesis when God created Adam and Eve. He called for Adam to be the head of the household and to lead. Eve was called to be Adam’s helpmeet. So what is the role of the adoptive father? I can speak to you as a wife who has watched her husband, who is the father of fifteen blessings (three birthed from the womb and twelve birthed in the heart), lead our family. The Lord has shown my husband the importance of being deeply invested in our children in order to help walk them through the healing journey. Your role is vital as you are the spiritual head of your household. It is time that fathers be lifted up and encouraged to stand tall and strong for the position that God has called you to!

It is the father’s blessing that Esau pleaded for: “Esau said to his father, "Do you have only one blessing, my father? Bless me too, my father!" Then Esau wept aloud.” Genesis 27:38 In our home birthdays are a time to be honored. That is the day that Dad gives the birthday blessing for the new year. The children look forward to their blessing from their father. It makes them feel special. The children look at the advancement of their age as a special moment. Another thing that my husband does is to claim his children under a new bloodline under Christ. Our adopted children come from past situations that opens the door for the enemy. To claim your children under Christ is a powerful step in your child’s healing. Generational curses are real and can have a stronghold on our children. God calls men to love and lead their families. This again goes back to the garden with Adam and Eve. Its important for dads to understand that love is thicker than blood. It is the dad that is to pass on the values, morals and beliefs of walking with the Heavenly Father. Its about embracing the high calling of fatherhood. It is a position of authority in the family and a position that so many will relate to the relationship of the Heavenly Father. My husband studies the Word in front of our children. He is actively involved in church. His faith is alive and active within the home. The children feel comfort in watching their father’s faith and observing him living it out. 

Dads speak with authority in your homes. Your children need to see the strength of their earthly father to help them to understand the strength of their Heavenly Father. It is through the relationship with the earthly father that children begin to experience the deeper connection with the Heavenly Father.

Dads you have an amazing role model to model yourselves after. The Word of God is a beautiful representation of who you can be. God writes His love letter to you. Stand tall and proud dear dads on this special day that is attributed to you. Your position in the family has value beyond anything that you could ever imagine. The call to fatherhood is a calling you should be proud of. A father is a role model, a counselor, a guide, a protector, a teacher, a leader...it is a position that is held in high regard. And finally, God demonstrates the role of being the adoptive Father. God has adopted each of us into His family: “just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will,” Ephesians 1:4"5 (NKJV)

It is through this role of being an adoptive father that you can teach your children about the blessings and inheritance that they will receive as they are joint heirs with Jesus. Demonstrating what a father’s love is supposed to be will help your children to see the healing power of the Heavenly Father.

Happy Father’s Day to the men who have answered the call of becoming a father to the orphan child. Stand tall and proud on this day as you continue to walk this journey of being an adoptive father.

Written By: Sonya Schweighardt, Volunteer Writer for Precious.org


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